Ways to Solve a Love Triangle
‘Life is messy; love is messier.’ This quote becomes truer when one is involved in a love triangle. A love triangle is that phase when love is in the air but for three people at the same time. Love Triangle begins when feelings are reciprocated from both ends. If it is only one-sided love, then it is not a love triangle.
Dealing with a love triangle is a tricky task as it involves a lot of emotions. There are two ways you can get involved in a love triangle – either two people are in love with one person or when one person has affection for two people at the same time.
Breaking out or dealing with such a love triangle requires a lot of analysis and work on your part. Here are a few tips that can help you deal with a love triangle effectively and make the best decision:
1. Understand your Role in the Love Triangle
The first and foremost thing to analyze is the circumstances. Every relationship plays out differently. Are you the one chasing a common person, or are you the one who has fallen for two people at the same time? Understanding your role in the situation is essential because once you can gauge your responsibilities only, then you will be able to make a wise decision. Such situations are never black and white. There is a lot of uncertainty and situations where there is no clear answer. For dealing with such hurdles, self-introspection is a must.
2. Make a note of your priorities
Before making any choice, you must be aware of your expectations from the relationship. Are you looking for a serious relationship, or are you driven by lust? Having a clear knowledge of your priorities will help you to be honest with the one you choose.
Most love triangles stem out because the person involved in a committed relationship is not fully sure of their wants. Hence, when a better option appears before them, they tend to get attracted to the second person as well. If you are the one chasing a common love, you need to re-analyze your place in the triangle and for how long you will continue to be the third wheel in the triangle.
3. Reflect on your Feelings
This applies more in the case when you are in love with two people at the same time. At the end of the long run, you will have to make a choice. You cannot stay in love with two people throughout your life. It might seem to be the perfect way out of the situation, but if you continue to live a polyamorous life, it will be harmful to all the three of you involved in the relation.
A love triangle does no good. It is selfish and painful. The earlier you make your choice, the less pain you receive as well as give. It is impossible to love two people equally. Reflect on your feelings, ask questions to yourself, and identify the one you love more.
In case you are chasing someone who is already in a committed relationship, you need to be extremely clear about your feelings and whether they are strong enough to pull someone out from their commitments. Don’t go the distance if you are in two minds about yourself and your feelings.
4. Take advice from your friends
A friend can tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself. Most of us get so blinded by love that we fail to see the obvious loopholes and the faults. We might keep imagining a real connection with someone when, in reality, there is none. This truth can be brought to light by a third party who is neutral and not involved in any way in the triangle. Friends can prove to be of immense help in choosing between ‘Yes’ and ‘No.’
5. Learn to say ‘No.’
In some situations, we choose a particular person just because we are too afraid to say no. The guilt that our answer would hurt someone compels us to say a forced ‘Yes’ even though we don’t mean it. But such a relationship will never work out. Any relation that is based on a lie will eventually break apart and will hurt both the individuals involved.
Rather than living a lie, it is better, to be honest right from the start. If you don’t like someone, say ‘no’ to them. Giving them false hopes is the worst way to deal with the triangle irrespective of your place in it. Maintaining absolute honesty with all the people involved in the triangle will save all the three of you from unnecessary emotional outbursts later.
6. Contemplate the Consequences
How your decision will impact the lives of the other two involved? Will it cause irreversible damage to the emotional well-being of any person? Will it leave you unhappy? Decisions about love can have lasting effects on life. It is important to give careful thought to the repercussions of your decisions to ensure the healthiness of a relationship and also the emotional and mental well-being of the people around you.
7. Me First in a Love Triangle
Love triangles are painful, especially if you’re the one being cheated on or the one who faced rejection. But you need to remember that a clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.
It might cause a lot of pain for the time being, but ultimately, the wounds will heal. No one should take drastic steps just because they faced defeat in love. Rejections bring you a step closer to self-realization. To soar in life, you must learn to first love yourself.
8. Don’t Close the Book, Turn the Page
Love triangles are not fairy tales with happily ever afters. They can be fun if you emerge victorious but can be shattering for the one who loses out in the battle of love. However, you should never break down because of one defeat. Love can happen twice. All you need to do is keep the faith alive.
Learn to accept things gracefully. Don’t act in haste in the heat of the moment. Such actions can cost you a lot and will make you regret later. Be strong and move on. The core of all love triangles is confusion. With patience, tolerance, and self-introspection, the confusions can be cleared, and the love triangle can be dissolved smoothly.