8 Reasons You Know Your Husband is the Best
A lot of times people don’t know what good things they have until they ruin them or until they’re gone. It’s important to remember to have an “attitude of gratitude” and to appreciate what’s good about our relationships and lives! It can be so easy to pick out all of the bad things about someone and worry about them or nitpick and wish things were different.
But, just think of the perspective change that could take place when we can sit and relax and just enjoy someone for who they are. It is true that many relationships are not healthy and are not meant to be and therefore end.
But, many relationships also end simply because one or both of the partners didn’t know how good they had it. So, some people need a little pushing to realize that their partner is just the best. Here are a few surefire ways to know that one’s husband is wonderful and deserving of love and appreciation (not nitpicking or nagging).
1. He asks “How do you feel about this?”
This may seem so simple, but after time goes on in a long-term relationship, people forget to consider the other partner’s opinions. Sometimes, the more dominant one can take over and neglect to pause and ask what their partner thinks about a situation or a decision. This happens more often at the beginning of a relationship. But if it continues to happen even after 5, 10, 20 years, then wow, that husband is a good one.
2. He still tries to impress
Men enjoy displays of their talents, intelligence, and strength. During the “chase” period, men may often go out of their way to impress a woman. To show her that he is the best choice out of all of the others. It’s touching to a woman because it shows that he cares about her opinion and wants her to think well of him.
So, if that still happens after years and years in a relationship, it shows that he still wants to put his best face forward. This is for his partner to think the best of him. Even after a long relationship, one should still want their partner to think they’re the best!
3. He’s honest, but in a nice way
A true sign of relationship comfortability is when each person can be honest about their feelings, desires, and needs. So, if he is honest, that means he wants the relationship to work. He knows that honesty may hurt the other person. But he wants to put forth his best effort to preserve the relationship and make it healthy.
Now, honesty should be done properly. There’s no reason, if one loves someone, to be harsh and cruel in their honesty. But, if they truly just want to be honest about how they feel, that’s a sure sign that the relationship is healthy.
4. He encourages pursuits
This is a true way to show and feel love. When someone truly loves someone, they will encourage their partner to do what they love and what they’re good at. Even if that means it could affect them in some negative way. If the husband is encouraging and wants to help their partner pursue their dreams and hobbies, then that’s a relationship worth keeping!
5. He isn’t clingy or jealous
Obviously, almost everyone will get a little jealous now and again. But, it’s unhealthy when it gets in the way of each partner being able to live their own lives without having to worry about their partner being upset at them all the time.
Each person should have their own lives and own friends as well as their relationship. They should be able to find a good balance where they can do their own thing without it being an “issue”. But if one’s husband only wants to see them and refuses to let them see other people, then there’s a problem.
Also, if the husband gets extremely jealous when they see their partner even talking to someone else who could be a potential sexual partner, then that’s also a problem! Both partners should be confident in their love for one another and let each other be their own person. If something bad is going to happen then that relationship wasn’t worth it anyway.
6. He’s still uses his manners
Sometimes, when people get comfortable, they forget that their partner is still someone to be treated with respect and decency. Every couple is different in how they view this. For instance, if he still says “excuse me” when he needs to get by, or if he opens doors, etc., then that man is a good one!
7. Kindness is his M.
Stereotypically, men are seen as the “harsher” gender, but apparently, that’s not always true. This should be true for both partners. Kindness should be the first way to treat their partner as well as everyone else.
When someone jumps immediately to harsh or cruel words when they’re upset, then it can make the relationship tense and difficult. If kindness is the order of the day, then that’s a great sign!
8. He always wants the best
As was mentioned previously, sometimes couples can get too comfortable, and they forget to make an effort. Then, before they realize it, their relationship has soured. But, it’s a great sign if the husband still wants to put forth effort even after a long time together. If he wants to do his best for the relationship in whatever way that translates for the couple, even if it takes a bit of work, then he is a keeper!
Sadly, today, too many people are in relationships that aren’t right for them. They struggle and fight to keep these relationships or work through them, but it just brings them sadness and pain. But, what’s equally as sad, is so many people are in relationships that are good ones. But they don’t appreciate them and only focus on the negative. That can tear apart the relationship as well and make a relationship end that didn’t have to end.
It is healthy to take time during the day to be grateful and pursue an “attitude of gratitude.” This improves one’s mood, happiness, and perspective on their lives. This, in turn, will improve their relationships whether with family, friends, or their spouse.
To begin this process, one should take some time to sit and write down all of the good things that are in their marriage relationship. Forget about all of the negative things that have happened or the annoying things that happen all the time.
Forget about all of the old fights and disagreements and frustrating situations that have happened and just focus on the good. Why did people come together? What stuck out in that person’s personality that made them attractive? Has the couple had good times together recently?
Focus on these things and write them down. One can look through their list and see if their husband has used kindness, politeness isn’t too clingy or jealous, and is respectful. There are plenty more ways to tell if one’s husband is a good one, but these are just a few! Start today and start appreciating a beautiful relationship.