6 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore or Tolerate
‘To err is human, to forgive divine.’ We all have heard this saying, and in many situations, we apply this in our relationships as well. But being in love sometimes makes us blind. We fail to recognize the fine line between mistakes and blunders.
No relationship is perfect, and it is indeed hard to define the do’s and don’t’s in a relationship. But there are certain things that you should never tolerate in your relationship. If your partner has made the following mistakes a part of his/her life, it is high time to rethink your relationship:
1. Insult and Disrespect
Respect in a relationship is not an option; it is a requirement. Never tolerate a partner who disrespects you, puts you down in any way or makes you feel uncomfortable. Most of us have a misconception that anger and mistreatment is a form of showing love and care. But the one who cares for you will never mistreat you. There is no excuse for disrespect.
Every relationship has fights. But, if your partner starts taking fights as excuses to abuse you, it is time to reassess the healthiness of your relationship. Remember that once you start putting up with ill-treatment and abusive behavior, it will become a habit and you will soon find yourself to be a victim of emotional as well as physical abuse.
2. Being a Control Freak
What makes relationships special are the two distinct individuals who make up the relation. It is essential to realize that we are human beings and not remote controls which need to be controlled by another human being. Being protective and being obsessed are two very different things and it isn’t much hard to differentiate between the two. For example, you are going out to a party with your partner. You pick a dress that your partner feels is inappropriate.
If your partner is protective, he will advise you against wearing the dress but will leave the final decision to you as you are an adult who can take her own decisions. On the other hand, if your partner is a control freak, you will have to abandon the dress just because your partner forced you to do so. The beginning of a toxic relationship is when your partner begins dictating your life and relationships.
The beginning of a toxic relationship is when your partner begins dictating your life and relationships. The last thing you should do is be with someone who won’t let you live your life.
‘Love grows where trust is laid, and love dies where trust is betrayed.’ Betrayal is the brightest red flag that indicates the need to walk out of your relationship. If your partner gets intimate with someone else, it shows a lack of regard for your sentiments and your love. Infidelity doesn’t arise due to lack of love; it arises due to lack of respect.
Once your trust has been broken, it will be difficult to develop the same trust again, and this will lead to even more conflicts between you and your partner. Trust and respect are the two foundation stones of any relationship, and no compromise should be made when either of these is broken.
4. Attempts to Break Bonds
In every person’s life, family and friends play an integral role. They are the support system every person can rely on. Your significant other should realize the importance of your family and friends and build good relations with them too. If your partner tries to isolate you by taking you away from your loved ones, it is a sign that he is trying to control you.
In many relationships, your partner may also refuse to accept your relation publically. This especially happens if you are merely dating. You need to take the hint quickly and decide on the perfect time to say adios to him/her.
5. Lack of Support and Constant Negativity
Love is all about growing together as a couple. When you are involved in a long-term relationship, you will have to face a lot of ups and downs in life together. There will be rosy patches as well as rough patches, and both of you will need to hold onto each other and make your way through them.
But the journey will become far more difficult if your partner doesn’t lend a supporting hand and is constantly focused on spreading negativity. If you continue to hold onto a non-supportive, pessimist person, it is akin to sitting on a time bomb. The bomb will explode one day or the other and may prove fatal for you too. Hence, it will always be wiser to defuse the bomb as soon as possible.
6. Lack of Initiative
Relationships require an equal amount of effort from both the sides. If someone loves you and cares for you, they will make an effort to be a part of your life. In our day-to-day life, we have a variety of chores to perform. Your partner must try and reduce your workload.
It should not be just you who keeps tackling all the burdens of life and relations. Even when it comes to being affectionate, one-sided love will never work. Your partner must take the initiative, at least sometimes. If your partner displays constant disinterest in you and your life, it is not a sign of a good relationship.
Most of us tolerate a lot of things in our relationships just because of the fear of being lonely. But being in an unhappy relationship will harm not just you but also all the other relations that you will make. Never choose to stay unhappy. It is essential to understand that bad relationships are nothing but bad investment; you will achieve nothing out of them. The wisest thing to do is walk out of it and find something better to invest in.