5 Things A Girl Needs To Consider Before Continuing Her Relationship After Graduation
Graduation is an exciting time. It’s both an ending and a beginning; it’s warm memories of the past and big dreams for the future. It’s a time of change and transition. As we graduate, we leave behind a lot of things like our school, friends and our old routines. But what about our boyfriends? Will graduating mark an end to our relationship? Will we part ways with the one we shared so many memories with just because it’s graduation time? Well, the answer is may be or may not be. Even though graduation is seen as the killer of college relationships; there is no hard and fast rule that you have to break up with your boyfriend after graduation.
Not all girls put a full stop to their relationships once they graduate. But neither are you required to stick around with someone who doesn’t seem to fit in your future. Your decision should be based on what you want and how strong is your relationship in the present scenario. If you are one of those girls who is going through the somewhat depressing time called graduation and are wondering whether your relationship will last after college, here are a few points to consider:
1. The Places Of Your Residences
The adventures in life begin right after graduation. Graduation opens up new avenues for you, and in the quest to accomplish your goals and dreams, you move to different places. There is very less probability that you and your boyfriend will move to the same place together. The two of you may even begin your careers by living at two extreme corners of the world.
The increasing physical distance may give rise to problems in your relationship. The truth lies in the fact that long-distance relationships are tough. Not everyone can handle long-distance relationship easily. It requires a lot of maturity and loyalty. Is your relationship strong enough to withstand the hardships of long distance? Be honest with yourself and remember that ‘Distance does to love what wind does to fire, extinguishes the weak and fuels the strong.’
2. Your Ambitions In Life
Every individual has their personal goals in life. Each one of us wants to carve our niche in the world. However, the dreams of you and your boyfriend can be as different as chalk and cheese. One of you might be dreaming of making it big in NYC while the other might remain content with leading a simple life in a small town. Quite evidently, the two of you are on two very different pages when it comes to dreams and ambitions.
Such contrasting ambitions can create hurdles in your relationship later in life. But that also does not mean that you should give up on your dreams for the sake of continuing the relationship. In fact, two people having such contrasting ambitions will never get along too well. There will come a time when your relationship will break apart due to such differences. Thus, don’t sacrifice your dreams for continuing with a temporary relationship and then regret afterward. If your goals are not compatible, it is better to end your relationship right after graduation itself.
3. What Is The Value Of Your Boyfriend In Your Life?
Do you want to continue with the relationship because you love your boyfriend or is it just because you want to flaunt your relationship status? This is one of the most critical questions you need to ask yourself while deciding whether to continue with the relationship post graduation or not.
When girls decide to continue with a relation after graduation, they most likely see marriage on the horizon. Do you plan to get married to your boyfriend? It might not be the hottest topic on your mind right now, but is it even something you will be considering in the future? In case you don’t see yourself getting married to your college boyfriend soon, then you certainly need to think more before continuing with the relationship.
Apart from being a status symbol, the relationship tag can make us feel more secure in the big bad world outside. Many girls are afraid to step out alone into the world beyond the college walls and hence, they like to keep their boyfriends as their bodyguards. When you are dating someone for a while, you tend to get dependent on them. The company of your partner is soothing; it diminishes your fears and makes you feel comfortable. But are you together just for convenience? You should be in a relationship because you love the other person, not just because you feel comfortable with them. You deserve better, and so does your partner. Remember that ‘The lust for comfort murders the passions of the soul.’
4. Do You Need Time And Space To Figure Things Out?
Life after post graduation is indeed overwhelming. The idea of moving out of the college bubble into the world that constantly needs all your attention is scary. In the beginning, life may appear to be a roller-coaster ride. To adjust to the new surroundings, you may need time and space. At such a juncture, you may feel that your college boyfriend is an unnecessary distraction and is someone who is eating into your precious time and space. The best way to deal with such a situation is to break off the relationship for the time being and keep your focus on figuring out your new life. In this way, you will be able to keep your life on track without hurting the sentiments of your boyfriend.
5. Are You Happy In Your Current Relationship?
When a relationship is right for you, it will enhance your life, not complicate it. Relationships are meant to make you feel happy, loved and safe. If your relationship makes you feel tense, scared and anxious, it is not worth your time and effort. Graduation is the best time to evaluate the health of your relationship. If you don’t feel happy with your current partner, there is no point in continuing the relationship.
Lastly, the one thing that you must do before taking any crucial decision is to have an explicit conversation with your boyfriend. Both of you are equally important in the relationship. It should not be just your call. Your boyfriend is entitled to an equal say in the matter as well because it is a significant decision of his life as well. The sooner you discuss it with your boyfriend, the better.
Don’t wait until the graduation night and then drop the bomb all of a sudden! Remember that this is not the end of the world. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together, you will be able to weather to storm too. Real love is when you go through the most terrible storms and find yourself holding hands when you come out. If you are still unsure about the strength of your relationship, there certainly is no harm in trying. The worst that can happen is a breakup. Don’t stress over the could haves. If it had, it would have.