6 Ways To Identify If Your Partner Is Your Best Friend
Some people might think it curious to ask, is your partner your best friend? When you stop and think about it though, your partner should be, at the very least, one of your best friends. It is a good idea if you have other close friends as well because if anything happened to the relationship and you’re on your own, it’s your friends and family that get you through the tough times.
That having been said though if you are spending your life with someone, it makes sense that the person be one of your very best friends. There will be up times and down times, but it’s great to have someone to lean on if you’re going through a tough time, and someone to celebrate the good times.
Not only will life have its ups and downs, but so will the relationship. It can’t be rosy all the time. Sorry, but it just can’t. The main thing is, though, that the lines of communication be kept open. That way, if the two of you do disagree on anything, it can be talked through, and a compromise outcome achieved.
A wise person once told me, “pick your battles” and this has served well over the years. If a problem does arise with your partner, decide on whether it is worth pursuing your point of view before you say anything. Otherwise, don’t cause trouble just for the sake of it.
If the two of you are best friends though, you’ll be able to discuss issues and work through them. It is possible to have a relationship where words are never spoken in anger, provided love and communication are there.
When you’re in the process of spending the rest of your life with someone, or at least, that is your intention, it’s nice to have someone that you can turn to for support when you need it, and it’s beneficial to your partner when you offer that same support in return. Your partner will appreciate knowing that they have someone they can go to and share things with when they need to.
Honesty is also important in a relationship. Lying to your partner is never a good idea. Relationships are built on trust, and if your partner knows they can count on your honest opinion, they will appreciate that because they know they can come to you and you won’t mess them around. Remember though, that if the truth is going to be tough, administer it gently, and be tactful in how you handle it.
Having common interests is a no-brainer. It enables you to go to places or do things that interest you both, and the shared experience will be a subject of conversation at the end of the day.
Even though you might be best friends, it is also good to have some interests that are separate. This also encourages conversation when you each share your experiences or update how things are progressing in your world. It’s important to maintain your own identity, even though you are part of a team.
By having separate interests as well as common interests, your relationship will thrive and grow. There will always be scope for conversation. It is important, even if you don’t have much interest in some of your partner’s interests, which you hear them out and make a constructive comment.
Think about how you would feel if you were sharing your interests and your partner either cut you off and changed the subject or you could tell they weren’t listening. It isn’t a delightful situation, so give the courtesy of being attentive, even if you’re not interested.
Another benefit, to having your partner be one of your best friends, is that you can talk and get things off your chest. As humans, it is essential to get things out of your system. We need not harbor them as pent-up anger or frustration is not fruitful to either yourself or anyone else.
If you need to have a vent or a whine, your partner will understand. Be careful, though, that it isn’t the only communication you have, or your partner will soon get sick of it. Once in a while though, is quite ok. If your partner needs to vent, you will also need to extend the courtesy of listening and being sympathetic.
If two people are compatible, it takes some work and compromise to keep the relationship on an even keel. But it is worth it to have a best friend that you can share everything with at the end of the day.